["When you get married, you expect your relationship to be a partnership in which you make decisions and face the world together, united. But often a husband's perspective and a wife's perspective on the same issue can be very different and unity in decision making can be tough. Should spouses take turns getting their way? Should they compromise? Can they avoid making decisions altogether? In He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation, Dr. Willard Harley says there's a b…