Having conflicts among family members is natural, but if you pay attention we usually fight about a failure in emotional connect, and likely didn't know it. It usually results in a disconnection surfaced by complex emotions.

We can use a simple concept that can help us reconnect: The Emotional Bank account.

When we have deposited more in our joint emotional bank account by addressing each others' emotions, communicating and expressing our emotions, we have credited the account with deposits (positive interactions).

Now, when a fight breaks out (negative interactions) between the members involved in the said family/sibling relationship, we can use that deposits to compensate for the withdrawal that has happened in the bank.

How do we replenish the balance?

Simple, 5:1 rule, for every 1 rough patch (negative interaction) we credit the account with 5 deposits of positive interaction which involves communication about the concern and helping each other identify the emotions to better regulate them.

We run behind securing our future with investments but they are very much dependent on external factors. The only investment which is not subject to market risks is the one that we do in our emotional bank accounts.

Put in the same effort to earn and invest more in our emotional bank accounts and you will start noticing the rise in your present security!